How do you fit in family when you don’t have all the aspects of a traditional wedding?
Okay, the church part is certainly traditional. Interestingly enough, our priest informed us that the giving away of the bride is actually not a church tradition and was actually started by royals in England. He did say we could have representatives from each family either say something or walk with us.
Our situation is delicate since Mr. Chic ‘n Cheap only has his sister left. His dad fought a valiant battle with cancer and it ended a few months ago. I used to be a peer counselor at school but I still don’t know how to handle tragedy on a personal basis. I just try not to do anything that involves joint parents (e.g. dance with the parents) or just ask him. It’s not an easy thing and the least we can do is include a note in our program and try to set up American Cancer Society donations.
But he will be walking in with his sister. I will be walking in with my parents.
Mr. Chic ‘n Cheap’s sister is a little shy so we are not asking her to do a reading. But her daughter will be our flower girl/ring bearer.
My brother will do a reading.
My effervescent cousin will be the MC/videographer for the night along with her brother.
My mom is planning the rehearsal dinner (with great discounts based on her connections).
It will be fun and each person is helping us in a way that are suited to their skills and personalities.
How is your family going to be involved?
It sounds like you will be surrounded by family love on the big day, sounds absolutely lovely 🙂
ugh i wrote this whole long winded post only to have my computer freeze up and it got deleted! lol.
anyway as i was saying…i totally agree with Bridechka. it sounds like it will be a wonderful day and that you will be surrounded by love ones and that’s really all that matters 🙂
also i can totally relate to how you feel marrying someone who has lost a parent. js dad passed away over 4 yrs ago after a brave battle with stomach cancer and i’m totally doing anything i can to be sensitive to her feelings on the big day. it’s a little difficult because we are two brides and my dads still alive. he’s not as understanding as i had hoped he’s be about not walking me down the aisle/not doing the father/daughter dance and all but ultimately my biggest concern/wish is that she is happy & comfortable & not sad on our wedding day.